I think it’s becoming increasingly obvious that the Baby Boomers left us with a mad world to grow up in.
The Democratic Experiment has devolved into genocidal Special Interest Groups, where your vote means nothing. The whole banking, credit, and finance industry is showing its true colours as a Ponzi scheme, and we’re the ones who will pay. Law Enforcement has devolved to brutal thuggery, the courts are a full of hypocrites, and the military is spit on, out of a marxist view of opressed and opressors.
The party ended in 1969; the High Water Mark hit and rolled back; the party is over, and now the hippies are living in McMansions, buying a new set of leather furniture every four years, while their children and grandchildren make do with the leftovers. They’ve become the marketing executives who turn our pop culture into crap, because the embers of a dying empire no longer burn hot enough to fuel the Wild and Wooly music of the Sixties and Seventies.
Even the Eighties are nostalgic nowadays, and that’s bloody pathetic.
Throughout it all, though, there’s no Great Criminal to point a finger at – not for anyone with a brain, at least. Our parents may have had their individual fuck-ups, but what do you expect from a single person? Perfection? That disappeared in 1870. No, despite all their failings, our parents are – ultimately – just people. There’s no one to take the blame. There’s no one we can properly finger as the culprit.
There’s only us, the Gen Xers and the Millenials, left behind to clean up after the party while we pay for their Social Security.
Except for one thing. There’s a singular narrative I keep hearing from everyone over the age of 45; the same message, the same story, the same prescription – and I have one thing to say to all of you Old Men and Women:
Shut the fuck up about our sex lives.
You turned gender into two armed camps, full of traitors, with every incentive in place to betray one another at the drop of a hat. Sex used to be an iterated Prisoner’s Dilemma, where cooperation was the Nash Equilibrium; now it’s a single shot, every Sex Organ for itself, and the defector always wins…if you can call [Divorced Mother]/[Lonely PUA] winning.
You started off by poisoning the wells.
A quote from Deti, commenting on the blog of the esteemed Dalrock:
…most men who came of age in the 1980s and 90s were not learning these things to be attractive to women. We were not taught any of these things.
I was taught there are absolutely no differences whatsoever between women and men wrt thought patterns, perceptions, the way they experience events, the way they process information, or their feelings. I was taught that any man who pursues women aggressively or goes after what he wants is a pig, a chauvinist, a possible rapist, and probably a criminal. I was taught that women find soft, caring, good-hearted, kind, and nice men attractive. I was taught never, never, NEVER to escalate sexually without express permission, and that doing otherwise would subject me to possible criminal prosecution.
Your Humble Scribe grew up as a typical divorce-baby, with an angry beta father who projected his own self-loathing onto me (Italians make poor betas), raised by women who taught me to Be a Nice Guy™ while inevitably pursuing the bad boys themselves. I remember feeling guilty for not crying as often as I ‘ought’ to. I am intimately familiar with this story; we all are.
Let it not be said that I am a misogynist; both genders have it rough.
You girls got lied to just as badly. While us boys were taught to be simpering feys, you got fed that hogwash of Grrrrl POWER! You were taught to be ashamed of your beauty, to distrust all men, to act abrasively, contrary to your own sweet nature. To compete in rough-and-tumble (Title IX) sports, to pursue academic careers, and the corporate office. That you should be ashamed of your nurturing side, your soft-hearted caring side, your ability to see the best in others, and to be supportive of those you loved.
I will be the first to say that women are entirely In the Right when they demand some Alpha out of their lovers – I cannot fault you for drying up in the presence of Nerds and Geeks and Betas. It is entirely fitting that a Woman love a strong Man. Just as it is Fitting that a Man love a Woman who dresses beautifully, wears makeup, and acts sweetly.
At this point, Ladies, I am reverting to my own First Person Perspective; please try not to take offence. I know it sucks just as bad on your half of the divide, but I’m over here, and this is what I see.
They turned us into gross parodies of our genders, the perfect anaphrodisiacs. And what do they say when we tell them of our woes?
A man I much admire, Paul Elam (a stand-in all of those who are not public figures):
O.K., so you want to get laid? Here’s how you do it. Smell clean, get in the proximity of women, and then ignore them. When they come to fuck you, and they will, shut up and let it happen.
No, Mr. Elam, no. I have heard the exact same thing from parents, family, and older friends when I try and explain to them the minefield of modern dating. Your generation built this world, even if you fought against it, but you never had to experience it. The Generals who organized the Great War had been Cavalry officers in their youth, and figured machine guns belonged in the rear rather than on the flanks. Time for you to shut the fuck up, and listen to a Corporal on the front line.
Modern dating is hell.
50% of marriages end in divorce. Another 25% are miserable, the woman an unhappy shrew, the man a shrivelled, balless thing. Another 20% are the blissfully unaware who settle, and 5% – maybe – actually know what’s going on and are happy, despite it all.
Women have become some of the most sadistically capricious creatures on the planet. The sheer number of shit tests I deal with before going on a first date is astounding. Confidence doesn’t broach it, anymore than intelligence will win you a chess game; rote memorization and practice is what you need. You need Game. Anything less and you’re throwing the dice for divorce.
Maybe you should look at the women you’re dating. Maybe you should look to your own issues.
Blame the victim much? The irony of this astounds me; when a woman’s been through an abusive relationship, she’s held to a lesser standard – her man is expected to be gentle until she heals. When a man goes through an abusive relationship, he’s suspect of being a Misogynist forevermore, and his comments on the tactical landscape can be ignored.
You Old Men are surrounded by women who are halfway ladies; we young men are surrounded by Feral Women who are violent whores. Calling us bitter for pointing this out is nothing more than closing your eyes to the truth.
Let me tell you about my ex.
This girl was a twenty-four year old virgin when I met her. Her parents were together. She was a professional biologist, recently graduated. We had amazing sex. She bitched about the volume and the speed while I was driving. I told her I loved her. She told me she Loved Me.
She broke up with me one week before leaving for the Burning Man festival; two weeks after I went into a mild depression; nearly six months to the day from when we first met.
If you have Game, you’re already connecting the dots. If you’re over forty-five, then you’re shaking your head in pity at my Psychological Issues. You kicked out our legs from under us, and then snorted as we fell.
Old Man, take a look at my life; I’m nothing like You Were.
Originally published at Stares at the World on November 22, 2011.
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Well said. The game has changed into a cut-throat, all or nothing free-for-all that invariably leaves one or both people miserable. This ain’t the 50s anymore, there’s new rules this time.
I’m 49. Guess what, my mother (raising my brother and me by herself) sold me the false bill of goods right into betatude bullshit:
http://theprivateman.wordpress.com/2011/02/21/mom-was-wrong-a-personal-narrative/
The social contract between the genders was ripped up by women at least a generation ago. Yet they still expect us to maintain the old social contract by being nice, chivalrous, generous guys. Screw that.
http://theprivateman.wordpress.com/2011/08/16/the-broken-gender-social-contract/
Every guy I know within earshot gets the same message from me:
Don’t get married
Don’t cohabitate
Don’t have kids
Learn Game (I call it Charisma)
Yeah, modern dating sucks. It doesn’t get any better with age.
Excellent piece. The Baby Boomers left us a ruin. The only solution is to reconstruct a society without liberalism, and to throw the Baby Boomers into old-age homes staffed by the products of their dysfunctional families.
“You Old Men are surrounded by women who are halfway ladies; we young men are surrounded by Feral Women who are violent whores. ”
A man of 45 is surrounded by ladies born in the late 60s. Do you seriously believe that they are “halfway ladies” ? No way, a man in his 40s is in the same predicament as yourself.
You have to go back to the 1940s generation – at least – to find “halfway ladies”.
Those aren’t ladies I am surrounded by. And there’s no way in hell any one of them is my wife…
@ Aurini
The Baby Boomers did not leave you with a “bad world”; we totally fucked you over and we haven’t left yet-there’s still some more fucking to do. So far, you Xers, Millenials et al have taken it very well, in fact, you’ve pulled you ass cheeks outward so our thrust goes further, deeper in an unlubricated sphinceter stretch. So, are you going to continue to take it? ‘Cuz trust me, we Boomers have every intention of taking it all, by “all” I mean the very last of the post WWII accumulation most of which we have already plundered. The AARP even as we speak is talking to us about “saving your (they mean me) Social Security”. Guess what dickheads- MY (that is all us Boomers) Social Security is in YOUR (the rest of you pathetic bastards ) paychecks. Waddya’ gonna’ do ’bout it?
Might I propose something, something extreme, but not without historical precedent?
Boomer concentration camps. The infra structure is already there.
Next time you drive by self-storage facility study it-then go youtube a picture of Auschwitz, Dachua etc. Pretty much the same concept. Many already have concertina wire. Centrally located, most are already isolated enough so security won’t be an issue. Boomers are already disgustingly fat out of shape slobs, so a couple of German shepherds on the perimeter can easily control dozens. Make an example of one or 2, hang them upside down on the chain link fence-that’ll take the starch out of the rest.
Rent the movie “Wild in the Streets”. There’s a scene that depicts this; it’s a crap movie, but you’ll get a rough idea of what I’m driving at.One change though:in the movie, they load the seniors on LSD. Not a good choice. They’ll fry otu and be hard to amnage. Use X; same general effect, plus the old guys can have a go at the women, fucking their putrid behinds that sag like a full condom down to the backs of their knees.
But spare me. I’m on your side, and I can help.I’ll pointout where the real problems are and help you marshall resources effectively so we get this done. For example, don’t worry too much about the M.D.s . I know they’re smart and trianed ‘n all, but without their support groups they aren’t in a position to effectively challenge you. Worry about the chiropractors-they know lots of old people, can spread rumors quickly, and their pseudo-scientific claptrap appeals to a rather dangerous element in the Boomers, ones who have guns and knowledge of the backwoods where you can expect partisan resistance to develop.Pay no attention to the lawyers at all; their balless equivocating on all issues, including their own incarceration, will actually help you as they’ll divert everyone and keep the focus on abstractions while you literally tighten the noose around their necks.
That’s just a sample. There’s plenty more, but I don’t want to give away too much and dilute my value to you. Oh yeah and don’t fell bad about us-if the WWII had done to us what we’ve done to you we’d have carted them off to rendering plants and made beef jerky out of them.
BTW I never cared much for Neil Young’s insipid ball-less whining as a solo artist. He rocked for five minutes the summer of ’67; then meh. Sort of represents all the Boomer bullshit; self righteous, writes about the civli rights movement like he was there (very goddam few were,no Boomers among ‘em as we were barely teens and Neil was jerking off in Illinois), rolls around the counrty with 18 mega-mega trailers with tons of equipment to sing about simplicity and saving the earth, lives like a king with massive amounts o money but wants more and most improtantly wants to tell you to live on less, think of the earth while he’s busy having his personal pilot land his Learjet on his yacht. He’s about as sincere as Lady Gaga but at least she’s got a tight ass, something he only had when he was snorting a half a pound of Bolivian marching powder a day.”Man needs a maid….”
This is one of the best non-Ferd articles ever posted here.
Oh wow, another pussy hipster whining that, if he had been back there, among those who couldn’t see where things were going to end up, because the process was just unfolding around them, he would have changed everything, obviously, because having 20-20 hindsight, he is now doing nothing that will make any more of a difference.
I can produce any number of books from the ’70s predicting that the boomers ( called other things at that time) would ruin the country.
Of course the Greatest Generation was really the worst and are just as much at fault.
That being said, Mirror, one trusts you are into physical fitness, because we are going to require you boomers to dig your own graves.
@savrola,
can you name some of the books about the boomers ruining the country?
Ah yes, who could forget Title IX a.k.a. non-revenue sports? Here in Wisconsin we have a great collegiate hockey program for both men and women. Recently, UW women’s hockey player Hilary Knight scored her 126th career goal and they tried to pass it off as if she had surpassed Mark Johnson (played on the 1980 Olympic men’s hockey team, btw) whose career goal count was 125. The non-distinction between men and women is getting lamer and lamer.
Uncle Eddie,
Savrola is the moron whose name links to a website that still (many months) consists of a single page with one sentence “HI GREG! THIS IS THE NEW SERVER”.
And he also assumes that I am a Boomer.
This isn’t the first article by these geniuses who claim that Boomers should have foreseen and fixed everything in the 70s, but somehow everyone in the following generations and decades was too blind/stupid/incompetent to have done anything, and is therefore entitled to the victim pedestal, just like teh wimmenz.
I’m 53 and was ten in 1969.
I’m called a baby boomer because I was born in the fifties but I was never old enough to to be a part of any of the hippy flower power stuff of the sixties. The seventies were very different to the sixties.
I’d suggest the folk you should be aiming at are a bit older than forty five.
“Shut the fuck up about our sex lives.”
What are they saying?
“She broke up with me one week before leaving for the Burning Man festival; two weeks after I went into a mild depression; nearly six months to the day from when we first met.”
So she became a libertine in the making after meeting you?
This post doesn’t really seem to gain any traction, and make much of a point.
I have talked to you whiny hipster man-bitches in real life, and when I agree that Boomers should have done thing differently, you almost break your arms patting yourselves on the back.
But when I continue by asking what you, the Gen-X, Gen-Y, Gen-whatever-the-fuck, are doing that is fundamentally any different from what the Boomers did, I get the same retarded look that I get from your female equivalent when I suggest that passing out drunk, half-naked, in a pool of her own vomit isn’t the brightest idea.
This is one of the best non-Ferd articles ever posted here.
I second that notion.
Well done, Aurini.
I’m 54 and was born in 1957. On a positive note I suggest listening to old men or be doomed to repeat their failures.
And I have been on the front lines every day fighting to roll back the onslaught of the feminarchy :
http://www.the-spearhead.com/2011/11/27/internet-erupts-on-news-of-spearhead-and-forbes-woman-alliance/
The Private Man: “I’m 49. Guess what, my mother (raising my brother and me by herself) sold me the false bill of goods right into betatude bullshit”
I’m 44 – a solid gen-X – and share the same experience. Raised by a hypergamous divorced mom (now on her 4th marriage), and the only male in the house in between an older and younger sister. And raised as a religious White Knight, no less.
You could say I got lucky – I left for overseas as soon as I finished university, and stumbled onto a feminine and truly “good” woman to whom I have been married more or less happily for over 20 years. Even so, finding the Manosphere and Game over the past few years has opened my eyes and changed things for the better both for me and out relationship.
Short of sheer dumb luck, I cannot imagine how anyone my age or younger can operate Game-less in westernized society without stepping on land mines right and left and suffering extreme consequences. Despite my fortunate circumstances, I second The Private Man’s advice (with the caveat that things can work differently in certain foreign countries, although even then the advice can be used to arrange things for greater benefit and safety).
Like a fricking laser, my man.
It really seems, that for so many in the game/mens rights milieu, a large portion of their problems would disappear if they could grasp the concept that they just aren’t that special and as such the world turns regardless of how offensive they find it.
Maybe the problem is your too young? You were never told this?
You gotta fight
for your right
to Party.
Indeed.
Well, I’m 56 and have even Uncle Elmer beat.
Thing is, those damn early Boomers 5 to 10 years older have been a royal pain in the ass from the age of 5 years old on. Think Bill Clinton, GWB, Al Gore and that self-righteous crowd. It was a real treat being their kid brother.
One of the few benefits of getting old is getting a personal perspective on having witnessed history in real time. It’s different when actual experience trumps having to read about it in a book.
I can well remember people of my parents’ generation debating Goldwater v. Johnson in ’64 and pointing out how, if “Great Society” programs were adopted, disaster would ensue.
“On no,” we were assured, “No woman would have bastard children just to collect welfare.” “No one will move to the U.S. just to collect government dough, ” etc., etc., And my favorite, “Empowering women will lead to a fairer, just and more peaceful society.” Well, we can all see how well that turned out.
Savrola is right. This stuff was not only predictable, it was in fact predicted. Too bad the idiots won the debate and have largely rewritten history. But what good does it do to be “right” long after the damage is done? After all, Cassandra’s gift of prophecy was, in fact, a curse.
Believe it or not, I, a Boomer by birth, not choice, sympathize with today’s young men (I have two early-twenties sons) and hope you who come after will have the balls, energy and strength to set things right where my generation has largely failed.
Private Man, Uncle Elmer, TDOM if he ever shows up, and the rest of you oldsters – none of this was directed at you. I know you guys, and I know you see the shit for what it is.
But a lot of guys your age are in denial as to how bad it’s got. Even back in the nineties, the tobaggon was still sliding downhill rather safely. But now we’re hitting the rocks.
Euthanasia.
I’m with Uncle Elmer, Private Man and Clydesdale here. We did not have the summer of love. We were in primary school during the 1960s. The main event in my adolescence was disco giving way to punk rock.
And dating sucked horribly then. After 20 years of AMC, I look around and it is more toxic now.
I’m old enough to remember that the Tories predicted this… but they were ignored. You can’t blame them: you can blame those who ignored them and voted in the current laws and policies.
Until it gets better… don’t put yourself in a position where you can be done by any family court in the USA. Or Canada. (NZ and Australia are somewhat better, the UK is somewhat worse). And remember, living with her or raising her kid makes you responsible.
And around retirement — I expect to be working to 70 or 75… because I expect that my retirement savings will have been stolen by then and that there will be no benefit.
It sucks, but until there is a revolution the Lords and Masters will require their 40%…
“I’m old enough to remember that the Tories predicted this… but they were ignored. You can’t blame them: you can blame those who ignored them and voted in the current laws and policies.”
Yeah, shame they never got to power, everything would be different now…
This is a 100% IMF article. It combines the rage and desperation of my generation with a deep understanding of the mess we are in. It is the kind of article that made me love this website.
Deep understanding? Please! It doesn’t say anything that hasn’t already been said.
The whiny conclusion really killed the whole post for me (Wah! wah! wah! MY GIRLFRIEND LEFT ME, SOCIETY SUCKS! BAWWWWW!).
Like others commenting above, I had the ‘pleasure’ of trying to make my way in life in the early years of the shit storm that is feminism, having been born in 1959. I was raised, one of four, by a single mother through the 60′s and 70′s as feminism fully began to assert its ascendency in social policy. But there was still the rump of the preceding cultural values which had yet to be sacked by the revolutionaries for feminism, and in my youth there was still hope of the prospect of a, for want of a better word, ‘traditional’ relationship, which I desired, but did not attain. Having witnessed the descent of our culture into a PC, Multi-Culti hellhole in the course of my adult life, I can absolutely get just how much more difficult it has been is for the generations coming up after me. Materialism was never gonna offer sufficient compensation for the wholesale destruction of anything that could meaningfully constitute society. Be assured, I support any actions that men take in response to the insanity that is contemporary culture. Mine’s a JD!
the Boomers were the brainwiped generation
cowards? absolutely
selfish and nauseatingly smug? yup
solely at fault? absurd
at the turn of the 20th century, Belfort Bax was writing about the same gender-issues MRAs are discussing now
just b/c it’s new to you, don’t mean it’s new
the first major womens’ “rights” convention was held in 1848, and despite what Medea tells you, female “liberation” was well-advanced by the mid-twentieth century
the Civil Rights Act of 1964 established the Protected Class system (affirmative action, etc.) — this effectively made all u.s. females privileged citizens with “rights” superior to their male counterparts
Boomers were not in political power in 1964, and neither were hippies, who had yet even to be named as such — the CRA legislation was a Greatest Gen social-engineering project, led by western intelligence orgs and transgenerational elites
focusing one’s anger on Yet Another Scapegoat isnt the answer to the Scapegoat Kultures of the dying western world
I was kid in the sixties, feminist doctrine was in full swing, I have been aware of misandry since I was seven. You are lucky at least you have the manosphere to
help you negotiate this quagmire. Late boomers and early Gen X have dealt with the full brunt essentially alone.
Your economic analysis and scapegoating is very simplistic,reads like an MSN soundbite.
This is why I spent the afternoon installing one of the twelve new portholes into the cabin of my wind-propelled escape capsule.
Everyone whose birthday is later than mine (December 1953)
… is busy blaming ME, and my contemporaries, for today’s malaise.
I don’t believe in happiness for myself any more … or social place … or social value … or much of a “say” in the way the world is going. But here you are, blaming it all on me and my generation, blaming and shaming me for the way everything turned out.
Thank you very, very, very much.
Great piece, too funny. God help us b/c we are doomed.
The most beautiful old men I have seen have been in my travels throughout Spain, Portugal, Italy, Greece, Turkey, Azerbayjan, Georgia, Southern Russia and Iran. Simply awesome — wish I could say the same about the older folks in this cuntry — seems old people here are dumped into nursing homes and receive little attention. And the older women too- are truly epic in their kindness and “grandmotherliness”. As a Mediterranean person – whatever the faults of our cultures- at least we are not techno-addicted, soulless robots whose sole purpose in life is to consume – and only make the Powers That Be richer. Your MacMansions, giant TVs and expensive cars will NEVER fill the inner void.
Yes, Maggie Thatcher was pro-feminist and wanted to give them everything they asked for, but was only stopped by her male aides who told her they would quit and cause a scandal if she did so.
You can’t trust a “conservative” woman as a politician.
“The AARP even as we speak is talking to us about ‘saving your (they mean me) Social Security’. Guess what dickheads- MY (that is all us Boomers) Social Security is in YOUR (the rest of you pathetic bastards ) paychecks. Waddya’ gonna’ do ’bout it?”
Leave.
The world is much larger than the US and there are many banks in many jurisdictions who aren’t interested in questions about sources of income so long as they get paid.
Malcolm-Good response. I was advocating putting us into concentration camps, but your idea is a lot more humane. And it may work for you, but I don’t think it will for many of you. In the developed countries you need a work permit, and they hold onto them like their balls. Unless you have lots of $ to invest or a very needed skill,no way. The Third World can’t use you, the underdeveloped world-well, it’s be easier to just stay here and dumpster dive. Look into it Mac; it ain’t going to be as easy as making a glib response on the Internet.
Oh and uh Mac-you need money to put in those banks. How much ya’ got?
“Unless you have lots of $ to invest or a very needed skill,no way”
Indeed.
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