Today, I’d like to rant a bit about one of the greatest scams going on in relationships in America today – The Diamond Engagement Ring Scam.
Now, it’s pretty well established that men’s basic genetic programming is not for long-term monogamy. Our most basic urge is to spread our seed as far and as wide as possible. For men, agreeing to a permanent single partner is a major concession.
For women, the basic desire is different. A women prefers on a basic level, a stable, monogamous partner who can provide for and protect them and their offspring. As women can have a very limited number of offspring, she wants to make sure that the ones she does have are well cared for.
So because of this, a regular monogamous marriage is pretty much a victory for the woman and a concession by the man. Yet in order to get a typical American woman to agree to marry, the man is required to buy her an expensive and useless diamond ring.
Why? Why does a man have to fucking bribe a woman with a fucking diamond? It’s he that is losing and giving up the possibility of all the other women in the world for the rest of his life! She should buy him a diamond! Or even better, something that the guy would actually want, like a gigantic TV, Super Bowl tickets, a motorcycle or a sports car.
Now, the biggest culprit in this scam is the De Beers company, who basically created the tradition of diamond engagement rings out of thin air with brilliant marketing campaigns in the early to mid-20th century. They also created the so called “standard” that the ring should cost two to three the man’s monthly wage. To add insult to injury, De Beers fixes the price by creating an artificial scarcity of diamonds. They are able to do this because they are a monopoly. Unfortunately, the UK’s antitrust laws are not quite as robust as those of the US. The founders of De Beers are some totally worthless bastards that have made life worse for men everywhere.
And what kind of girl needs a ring anyway? I’ll tell you what kind: the wrong kind. The same girl who will take it straight to the jeweler for an appraisal the very next day. The same girl who will turn into a Bridezilla and waste a bunch of your money on a huge wedding that will drive you to the brink of bankruptcy. The same kind who will expect a lifetime of nail salon days for free and whole lot of other unreasonable shit from you for nothing. The same girl who will take half (or more) of everything you own if, heaven forbid, it doesn’t work out and you divorce. A girl who likes to have her cake and eat it too, that’s who. Don’t marry that girl!
Western marriage is a bad fucking business deal, period. See this supposed Craigslist exchange for an outstanding articulation of just what a bad deal it really is.
My favorite are the girls who get engaged and immediately change their Facebook profile picture to a picture of their hand with the ring on it. That’s just terrible taste, and really indicative of the me-first attitude of these girls. How must their fianceé feel when they see that? Wouldn’t they feel better if the picture had the two of them in it, and not just the ring?
Men of the world, unite! No more $2,100 (2007 average) bribes for the privilege of never fucking anyone else for the rest of your life! If you go out with a girl and she says she needs a ring, just get the check and walk away. It’s a great litmus test and will save you lots of money and heart ache.
Time to take a stand, guys.
Originally published at The Single Dude’s Guide to Life & Travel on January 27, 2011.
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So, a man needs to buy a ring to a woman for what?
“I promise to uphold the priviledge to support you till the rest of your life”
“I promise to give you half of what I am financially worth to you, upon you deciding you want to Eat Pray and Love”
“I promise to financially provide for our children”
“I promise to support you in your choice to work part time / not to work at all once the kids come, and even also after they reach school age”
“I promise to accept cuddling instead of sex, and not seek for sex outside of the marriage once “cuddling” means “sex”…”I also promise not to masturbate to porn”
“I promise….”
“I promise…..”
“I promise…….”
What does he get in return?
“I want a DNA test”
“Illegal”
“I still want to see my children”
“Illegal”
“I want sex in my marriage”
“Abusive”
“I want my wife to be faithful to me, and if she is not, carry fault in the divorce”
“Not in the law, pay half”
“I want to have a say in the abortion of my own child”
“Illegal, insensitive, abusive”
Fuck marriage.
My wife bought me a ring for a little less than hers cost. I lost it swimming and she want’s to buy a replacement. I say spend it on my son. If you want a wife look for one that you will want to be with when you are both old and ugly.Everyone’s looks get worse but their character doesn’t have to.
Simple to neutralize: ask the woman if she is shallow and materialistic, thus deserving of this overpriced rock. Of course she will say ‘me? no!’.
Follow through on this and get a nice ring, something under, say, $700. If she is true to her word, she will appreciate this gesture. If not, then you have found her out.
Win win for men.
It is not a Western tradition. Indian women get gold from their would be husband. In case he dies or leaves her, she can sell it and have something to live on for awhile. If I am not mistaken, I think their marriages are arranged by the parents; that’s not exactly a bad thing if you ask me.
Spot on about De Beers. You can make a diamond or you can pick one off the ground in some places in Africa. They have almost no use except for industrial drill bits.
Heard on the radio last night some guy in the Ukraine or Russia sold his kidney for $20,000 to buy his GF an engagement ring. When he popped the question, she said no.
That programming in men needs to stop. Hope he learned his lesson as well.
Now, it’s pretty well established that men’s basic genetic programming is not for long-term monogamy.
It is my impression that men have biologically inbuilt several reproductive strategies. Monogamy is one, so is seed-spreading. It is dependent on environmental factors.
Ask a young man who has one-itis what he thinks of any other woman.
I originally read the hypothesis of the rise of light hair and light eyes is because of the environmentally induced monogamy of northern europe from a japaneese paper, but I can’t find it now.
“European hair and eye color: A case of frequency-dependent sexual selection?” by Peter Frost supports a similar conclusion.
European men had to hunt far and wide to find game, thus natural selection operated on men. With men dieing hunting there was an sex imbalance, with more women then men. Since food was procured through hunting multiple wives were unpractical. Since many women had to compete for fewer men sexual selection increased in women, thus the rise of the light hair and light eyes.
Consequently we have all read the papers of the middle-eastern king-take-harem sexual selection present there. And the West-African self-supported female selecting among males who will make no investment in the child.
Monogamy is one sexual reproductive route among several common in our genetic heritage.
“Follow through on this and get a nice ring, something under, say, $700. If she is true to her word, she will appreciate this gesture. If not, then you have found her out.
Win win for men.”
How is that a win win? You shouldn’t be trying to get married in the first place. Pussy is just a warm hole between their legs. Nothing more.
How bad does family law have to get before men get the picture? It’s already legal for wives to kill their husbands in their sleep.
You want to know if a woman is a sick materialistic whore? If she lives in the U.S., then you have your answer.
This article is right on the money! Yeah marriage is an absolute joke and any man who still opts to tie that legal rope around his neck will get exactly what he deserves.
The (only) sweet thing about this feminism crap is that lets women think they have all of our strengths and turns a blind eye to their own female frailties.
“I wanna go out drinking and hooking up and not be judged for it…” You got it sister.
Since ociety doesn’t look down on whore-ish behavior anymore, (unless you’re a man…you pigs) there’s no reason to get married before shacking up or even having a kid. Plus it gets the State off your nuts and puts the man in the relationship back in charge where he belongs.
DeBeers and Western women sure turned the tables on men. Think about it. Women of any social standing before the 20th century brought a dowry to the marriage to help establish the new household but today the sucker man has to give up a down payment for a house or a new car to buy a piece of carbon to put on the leeches finger.
Not bad.
But you’ve done the common thing – you pulled back at the moment of truth.
De Beers controls the diamond trade. But who controls de Beers? Who has historicaly been in control of the diamond business? Who were the founders of De Beer, these “totally worthless bastards”? You need to go deeper. http://www.edwardjayepstein.com/diamond/chap8.htm
For women, the basic desire is different. A women prefers on a basic level, a stable, monogamous partner who can provide for and protect them and their offspring. As women can have a very limited number of offspring, she wants to make sure that the ones she does have are well cared for.
This is not accurate. A woman wants the best genes possible and to be provided/protected (these are two separate urges). It does not mean she wants to be provided/protected by the same man as impregnated her or any particular man in general. That is why women in prefer insane welfare state which enables them both – the most sexy sperm and all resources.
It does not work in long term but who cares.
Let’s be a little realistic here….if a guy wants to get married he is going to need to get a diamond ring…unless she is really unorthodox. If a guy doesn’t want to get married, then this is of no concern.
So armed with the knowledge you have provided, the best thing is to not spend a lot of money. Also realize the resale value is a fraction thanks to the cartel.
Fuck marriage.
Notice how the ring featured in the example advert is called “Princess Band”.
Ugh. Part of the “Spoiled Overprivileged Biatch” range no doubt.
Thank god for MGTOW.
This article should have been proof-read. Yikes!
@Ryu – Bam! Right on the money again…
This article was right on the money.
When I was in the military, the first thing that I learned re: male-female relationships was this “Diamonds are for grandmothers, not for wives” (one of the benefits of having two gunnys, a male chief and a very feminism-disillusioned, used to be “hot” female SMSGT in the chain of command of my training squadron.) Long story short, our superintendent (the female SMSGT) got so tired of seeing “her boys” being jerked around by hypergamous women that she gave her training personnel carte blanche on teaching their troops about the evils that women do (suffice to say, her red pill moment came when no fewer than a dozen of her lowest-ranked troops found themselves dead broke within a year of marriage after doing the whole three-months-salary boondoggle. The less said about her three sons *ahem false rape claims broken engagement cuckolded by drug dealer attempted suicide*, the better…)
But, back on topic, we were told that a woman in love gives two fuck whether her ring is diamond, gold, silver or onion. We were told that if the money could be put towards a mortgage payment or car note, then it was too much to spend on jewelry. And finally, we were told that a woman who isn’t there to hold your hand on the day that your grandchild’s head passes through your daughter(in law’s) thighs doesn’t deserve to wear clear rocks on her finger, period. Of course, modern trainers aren’t allowed to give out that information (its misogynistic, don’t you know?)
“You want to know if a woman is a sick materialistic whore? If she lives in the U.S., then you have your answer.”
LOL. A little harsh but totally LOL!
I laughed when I read that it is women who should by us men gifts such as a diamond ring or a giant television etc. because these days it really is the truth. Before the late 1960′s and early 1970′s here in the USA, there may have been a point to getting married and buying the diamond marriage and diamond engagement ring, when the marriage laws and the enforcement of those marriage laws were more or less equal, just and fair. Marriage is a raw bad deal for men even before they get married even in the engagement period in all of Europe, Japan, South Korea, Taiwan, Singapore, Hong Kong, China, Austrailia, New Zealand, Canada and the USA etc., but it gets worse after the wedding vows are made. DeBeers and the Jews who control it might need to spend money on governments to make marriage a better deal for men if they don’t want to be financially ruined like they almost were in the Great (Economic) Depression(1929-1939).
The ways in which a diamond is like a pussy-
1. Diamonds are expensive due to artificial scarcity created by a diamond cartel. Vagina is expensive (for clueless guys) due to a pussy cartel.
2. Diamonds are perceived as precious status symbols by most women and some men due to social conditioning and lack of rational thought. Pussies are perceived as precious status symbols by nearly all women and too many men due to social conditioning and lack of rational thought.
3. A clear-eyed view of diamonds reveals them to be a highly desirable but exceedingly common item, with most of their value derived from fantasy and emotional thinking. A clear-eyed view of pussy reveals it to be a highly desirable but extremely common lump of tissue, with most of its value derived from fantasy and emotional thinking. As a hot German chick once said to me, “Pussy is pussy.”
The ways in which a diamond is not like a pussy-
1. One can get diamond jewelry and keep it in a safe place. If one ever has to sell it out of financial need, it is available. Pussy is unreliable, can’t be legally sold, and will walk away at the first sign of financial need.
2. If one wants a diamond, the transaction is simple and clean (though clearly overpriced.) If one wants pussy, dozens of hoops often need to be jumped through, and one is exposed to myriad physical, financial, legal, and emotional risks. Often before one has even gotten the (also overpriced) pussy.
3. Free diamonds are a gift. Free pussy always comes with a catch, and the risks as noted above.
Hmmm….so why again are men spending a fortune to buy diamonds in the hopes of pussy?
The rothschild family own de beers and anglo-american mining plc.
It’s against my principal to ever by a ring diamond, or gold that isn’t a well thought out investment.
Very true… In the past, in my country, the bride was required to bring several expensive gifts to her future husband (they were called “zestre”). Like animals (sheep, pigs etc.), clothes, rugs.. well very practical things. These gifts were established by the families of the bride and the groom. A young girl without a good “zestre” couldn’t find so easy a (good) husband.
But in today society, things are upside down!
The diamond business is controlled by Hasidic Jews, period, and for a very long time, the Israelis had a cozy relationship with apartheid South Africa. Where do you think the DeBeers conglomerate got the labor to slave away in the mines?
Where do you think the name Diamant and Finkelstein come from?
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