I was at the coffeehouse yesterday evening, sipping some straight black arabica, scribbling poems in my notebook, and watching a hipster couple converse across the way when a thought struck me.
When I was in high school, I spent close to nothing on girls. The only thing I ever bought for the girl I lost my virginity to was a spinach quesadilla and a Coke.
In college, I still spent very little on the ladies. If you have a basic level of game and aren’t a total weirdo, you and a young sweetie-pie can bond over cups of Keystone Light piss water straight from the kegger. Just make sure you can find your way home without getting jumped or stopped by the cops.
But when you graduate and enter the real world, suddenly you’re expected to go on these things called “dates.” And half of the time, the chick expects you to pick up the tab! Even if you don’t have to pay for her, you still have to go to an “acceptable” venue, like a cafe or a classy sit-down restaurant, which generally cost more then the greasy Mexican take-out joint down the street or the five bones that the kegger-master charges for all you can chug.
Now, the median age at which people get married here in New York is 28.9 for men and 27.0 for women. (For the U.S. in general, it’s 26.7 for men and 25.1 for women.) When you propose in this country, you’re expected to spend an ungodly amount of money on a wedding ring for your betrothed. Then you have to spend thousands, maybe tens of thousands, for the actual wedding and honeymoon (even if you get outside help, expect to plunk down a pretty sum). Keep in mind that you’re statistically likely to be proposing to a woman in her mid-to-late twenties. Society at large still considers marriage to be an ultimate goal for men, deriding those who don’t want to take the plunge (hat tip: Talleyrand).
Now, we know that the peak of a girl’s sexual market value is in her late teens/early twenties. After 25, her value starts declining slowly, and after thirty, it plummets. Not to mention that unless she is a chaste angel, her number of partners is only going to go up. Idle vaginas are the slut’s workshop.
So basically, the conventional wisdom of the dating world mandates that a man has to spend INCREASING amounts of money on a woman as her sexual value DECREASES! The only time this relationship collapses is when the woman in question hits cougar years and her value has gone so low that not even the marriage-industrial complex’s nonstop fusillade of lies can obscure what can be seen with your own eyes.
What this means is if you’re a beta male (the majority of men), in order to gain access to that sacred portal of pleasure every woman has betwixt her thighs, you’re expected to shell out cash for dates. If you want to have an LTR, you’ve got to shell out a whole lot more. And when you finally pop the question, like the good little obedient serf you are, you’ve got to spend three months’ salary on a goddamn ring and four or five figures on the ceremony and related shit. All this so your blushing, mid-to-late twenties bride, who likely spent her salad years hoovering down the jizz of players, bad boys, pickup artists, and other alphas FOR FREE, can brag to her fellow yentas about how she’s snared herself a nest slave husband.
Well, fuck dat noize. I’m no economist, but a commodity that gets more expensive as it becomes increasingly worthless sounds like one only a sucker would buy – and make no mistake, when you get married, you’re effectively “buying” a woman. Anonymous Craigslist truth-teller, regale us with your offensive wisdom:
Cutting through all the B.S., what you suggest is a simple trade: you bring your looks to the party and I bring my money. Fine, simple. But here’s the rub, your looks will fade and my money will likely continue into perpetuity…in fact, it is very likely that my income increases but it is an absolute certainty that you won’t be getting any more beautiful!
So, in economic terms you are a depreciating asset and I am an earning asset. Not only are you a depreciating asset, your depreciation accelerates! Let me explain, you’re 25 now and will likely stay pretty hot for the next 5 years, but less so each year. Then the fade begins in earnest. By 35 stick a fork in you! By the way, you could always find a way to make your own money and then we wouldn’t need to have this difficult conversation.
It’s thoughts like this that make you realize the true value of game. I’ve had more success with women then most guys I’ve known and I’ve paid much less then them to achieve it. What a thing to enjoy the succulent, tight flesh of a nineteen-year old co-ed, at the height of her beauty, for the price of a glass of Guinness! And if current trends continue, the chance of a guy willingly plunking down his freedom and his money to own my aged, sloppy seconds becomes less and less each year. Vat a vonderful vorld ve live in, vhere everybody vins!
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A man of the majority, a beta (though I also like uzemluzem’s description of beta, I’ll go with yours on this one), has to pay:
For the priviledge of continuing to pay for her expenses.
For the priviledge of taking care of her.
For the priviledge of being able to pay the dinner.
For the priviledge of entertaining her.
For the priviledge of the promise of having seemingly exclusive access to a snatch-for-all.
Shit.
I was told on the forums that there is no inherent conspiracy about women and reported sexual partner number.
A week after that I realize that a friend of mine, a she, is not really putting her brother into his place for dating a fat and fugly, and being happy and proud about it.
Can’t get that out of my head.
Many of the guys I know, working long hours so one day they can meet that special girl and provide for her, wasting their 25-30′s with one date per six months, one or less lays per year; man it is impossible not to have your heart broken at the sight.
Sometimes I really think some men are born to provide while others are born to fuck.
If you are not getting laid once a month, and you are not a MGOTW; in other words, a horny bonobo running with his dick hanging out his pants and still not getting laid; AND you do not open your ears to guys who actually want to help you, who are showing you that there is another world out there, and even ridiculing these free mentors,
Deserve to fucking pay for the fucks I get for free.
The guys who insult me because I tell them that there came no good out of the sexual revolution (I reap the beneftis), and then go on talking to me about how good the sexual revolution was, while having sex maybe once a year,
Deserve to fucking pay for the fucks I get for free.
If you are too much of a pussy to take the Red Pill,
If you are too much of a pussy to respect your own balls more than a public cunt (sadly many of the WW… as some know I dont agree with the numbers 3, 7, or 8)
If you are too much of a pussy to listen to a guy coming from the other side telling you the truth,
You
Deserve to fucking pay for the fucks I get for free.
It is a sad state what many guys I know are in. It is pathetic.
The tragicomic thing is that the guys who agree to my sentiments about women are the ones getting laid,
the ones calling me names are the ones having sex with the idea of the sexual revolution.
It depends on the woman and the man’s priorities whether or not she is a depreciating asset. A woman is in her mid 20s, a 5-6 in looks, but a woman of real character is a significantly better investment for a LTR than a woman is 19, an 8-9 and has dubious or unknown character. Given the way that modern American women tend to go postal around the age of 40 and divorce their husbands in a quixotic search for themselves and “happiness,” I would advise most men to “consider the costs.”
It’s all fun and games until you find that that hot little piece of ass you’re dating has been cheating on you and gave you an incurable STD or got pregnant by someone else and tricked you into signing the birth certificate. Or put you through a reenactment of Robspierre’s kangaroo courts because she wants to move on.
The best way to think of it is that women sell high and buy low.
They sell at their peak, and buy the man at his low. What they’re doing, is what everyone in the stock market does, its just that men have been too indoctrinated to realize that they are being the fools of the marketplace.
Another confirmation of an absolute truth: Chivalry is dead. Is a worthless form of acting that it will not give access to pussy.
This world would be more tolerable if males in general knew the truth about women BEFORE they marry one. There’s us, but we are still the extremes of the Bell curve.
PS: “Vat a vonderful vorld ve live in, vhere everybody vins!”
The W key stopped working or something?
“a man has to spend INCREASING amounts of money on a woman as her sexual value DECREASES!”
The part I really like is that you have to keep paying when her sexual value to you is ZERO, i.e. after a divorce.
I guess you could look on the bright side and say that in high school and college, you got a lot of poon for free at a time when your SMV was at its lowest and hers was at its highest…
It’s a funny phenomenon (well, not really).
When I was in college I was broke.
There was no decision as to whether or not I would pay for a woman, I just wasn’t capable of it.
For whatever reason as I started making money, I never applied those lessons from college – that women are totally happy hanging out with you and hoovering whether you “treat” them or not.
As I became more and more “successful”, I was actually really surprised when my new status symbols (high rise, luxury car) didn’t necessarily facilitate access to women as I expected they would.
The girls I was banging generally followed the college script, random encounters and hangouts, no wining and dining required.
When I did find a “special” girl, I would generally commence with the suckers script – fancy dinners and generally sappy behavior, and I got my just desserts.
You could say I’m back in college now.
The obvious fix to this is for men to rebel against the current social taboos which say that a 30 year old man is “robbing the cradle” by dating or marrying a woman in her peak age range. It worked well for the Greeks and Romans where it was fairly common for men to get fully established in life before marrying, and they would marry a woman in her prime, not one their age.
After all, a society which says “it is natural, (therefore good) for two men to have sex” has no standing to tell a 35 year old that he is being a deviant or going against nature by dating a 18 year old.
Mike T:
It generally doesn’t work like that. Men age like wine, women age like milk. Additionally, when a girl is still young and somewhat open-minded, it’s possible to mold her into what you want provided you have the wherewithal to do it. It’s much easier to work from a blank canvas then one that’s been reused.
Gx1080:
Faux Dracula accent. Keeping things light.
Mike T:
I’ve been pushing for that for a while now. When I get hitched, it’ll be to a girl at least a decade younger then myself. Get ‘em while they’re in the bloom of youth.
I can’t believe you’re still in your 20s!!!
A miracle pill is coming that will make many married men happy:
http://www.alternet.org/sex/143682/%22restless_vagina_syndrome%22:_big_pharma%27s_newest_fake_disease
^whatever they’re working on has not been approved by the FDA yet, but it’s good to know that it’s coming…hopefully.
Get yourself a poor girl forge her into a rich girl. Problem solved. Shits not rocket science. Plus you get to be her hero.
It is absolutely not necessary to spend any money on a woman before having sex. This is one of the OLDEST teachings of Game, going back to 1999 or earlier.
I never spend anything other than the ingredients of the sumptuous meal I cooked for her at MY place as we close in on the latter half of the 7-hour rule.
I never have to spend anything to GET her to come to my place, play chef’s assistant to me while I prepare to dazzle her tastebuds with French-Indian fusion, dance some Salsa in the living room, and have the privilege of experiencing my Seduction Game.
It’s thoughts like this that make you realize the true value of game.
Moderate Game = $2 Million in value.
Advanced Game is much more, but very few guys have advanced Game (or even really need it).
Gack! That Rich Santos mangina wrote such a mangina-laden article that it is almost a parody.
The man is ‘immature’ and ‘selfish’ for not wanting to commit. Nevermind that the divorce laws are rigged against him, and that the woman has much more to gain from wedlock than he does…
What a mangina….
So why did it take you guys so long to figure this out?
Good quality escorts can be found by browsing local escort review boards, in almost every major western city.
Say, each ‘all you can eat session’ costs you 300 (usually less).. For 300k, you could fuck a thousand different women. Many more, if you travel abroad.
Why do you guys want to enter the usurious contract of marriage with an aging cunt?
Sofia:
Why is everybody so surprised by this?
Lucifer:
Paying $300 to fuck a chick is only slightly less dumb then marrying her.
“The guys who insult me because I tell them that there came no good out of the sexual revolution (I reap the beneftis), and then go on talking to me about how good the sexual revolution was, while having sex maybe once a year”
Turning the sexual revolution back doesn’t necessarily mean the return of monogamy.
I’m no economist, but a commodity that gets more expensive as it becomes increasingly worthless sounds like one only a sucker would buy
Ferds,
You have just identified *exactly* when a valuation bubble is peaking.
Study the dot-com, housing, and oil bubbles, and you will see striking parallels, complete with ‘shaming language’ about how you are a loser if you don’t pile into the asset in question.
The term ‘pump and dump’ existed in hedge-fund parlance long before it ever existed in Game.
This lowering of human relations (dating, sexuality, marriage, etc) to the base level of economics and ‘filthy lucre’ is disgusting.
With materialism and money being all that matters, no wonder the USA is such a sick and declining nation.
Eman,
What country are you from? Somalia?
I agree with Eman. It is disgusting to lower human relations to the base level of economics ….. but here’s the rub: who’s the blame for it? Like Elusive Wapiti has said: If women don’t want to be commodified, then they shouldn’t hold themselves out as the “PRIZE” for contestants.
Columnist:
What do you propose will be the aftermath of the turn?
About monogmy,
Well, getting laid once a year or so (or few times by one woman in whole 52 weeks, is really not much better than monogamy.
I tell them sexual revolution was bad, while I am enjoying various young ladies now and then, pretty often. (bottleneck being my unwillingnes to interact with the strong and independent WW of northern europe)
They try to shame me for telling the sexual revolution brought no good, while living in a almost complete nogamy, wondering how the douchebags get laid left and right.
Oh, and they still blame the douchebags for getting laid, dont have the fucking balls to put responsibility of women for their choices.
“What do you propose will be the aftermath of the turn?”
Hard polygamy could be a result.
In his “Treatise on the Gods”, while discussing the origin of God as well as marriage and man as well, H.L Mencken mentions “the domestic consolations.” He’s not just talking about sex. There are other comforts to be had from marriage: for example, the pride at being the provider of a household and the father of children. I’m curious how single men intend to enjoy those benefits without marriage, or if they are even thinking of them. If so, those need to be added to the rather simplistic equation. When you date, you aren’t just paying for the single declining commodity.
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