For every year I age, I seem to lose another year’s worth of memories. One of the few I have left from my early childhood was a game I played in which I twisted my ankles as far out as they would go, trying to balance myself with my toes pointing straight to the left and right. Enough times doing this, and I loosened up my ankles to the point where I could walk with my toes perpendicular to my body. Unfortunately, this had the side effect of screwing up the way my feet positioned themselves whenever I walked or stood normally – instead of pointing straight ahead, they poked out at forty-five degree angles to the left and right.
I see a lot of guys who walk in a similar manner, and it’s embarrassing to say the least. When your feet are splayed, your posture is made sloppy and your walk is shambling. Also, splayed feet cause your knees to bend more while walking, which causes you to “bob” up and down while walking and reduces your height. When I was in college, I developed a technique that helped me “reset” my feet so that I could walk in a more masculine way, and I’m gonna share it with you right now.
When you’re walking, twist your ankles inward so that your toes are pointing straight forward. While doing this, shift your weight so that most of it is concentrated on the outer edges of your feet. Maintain this composure whenever you walk and your ankles will slowly twist themselves back into position. At the same time, you won’t have to keep walking on the edges of your feet, as your body weight will slowly diffuse back to where it was before.
The amount of time it takes to “lock in” your ankles depends on their flexibility and how much walking you do. My ankles are like a ballerina’s, and I was doing a lot of walking around in long straight lines in college, so it only took me a couple of weeks to adjust. If your ankles are inflexible and/or you don’t do the whole walking thing, it will probably take you longer. Walking on flat sidewalks is the best way to deploy this method, as the lack of hills and other obstacles allows you to concentrate on keeping your feet straight.
A not insignificant part of game is how you carry yourself. If you walk around like a lazy slob, no woman will want to bother with you. A small thing such as how you position your feet can make all the difference.
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My posture was fixed from a typical geek’s to a pretty solidly masculine posture by a single year of JROTC in high school. Same thing happened to my younger cousin who was a sniveling brat and realized at the age of 14 he had to make a radical change if he wanted to be a man instead of a mama’s boy like his mom tried to raise him. A decent JROTC program is 5x better than any PE class or anything like that for shaping up a boy in that age range.
**or high school sport.
RE: How you carry yourself
Another important thing is keeping your head up. No more staring at the ground. You don’t want to have you’re chin up too far (that makes you look arrogant), but you do want to look out confidently on the world.
When I was exposed to the explicit idea that men could be gym rats and not get any female attention to speak of, I started trying to really see the men around me and their likely ability to elicit female attraction.
Time and again, I would see tall and even muscled out gentlemen utterly compromise themselves by ‘I’m going to make myself look smaller and as least threatening as possible’ body language. This practically makes them invisible to a woman, I think.
Thursday: If you do have to err, err on the side of arrogance. Men today are erring too much the other way.
What the fuck were your parents doing to let you get away with that?
My mother spent countless hours making damn sure I walked straight and stood up straight. I will thank her by seeing to it that my kids get the exact same treatment.
I was checking out people walking, and almost everyone has a certain bob to their walk. Doesn’t look quite right on guys. Not sure how I got there, but my entire body maintains a consistent height, no bobbing whatsoever.
I’ve found when I have shoes with a more substantial heel, eg leather soled loafers vs. worn out boat shoes, my gait feels more natural and masculine. Loud clicking heels on dress shoes – if you’ve got the panache to carry it off…
Rollory:
“What the fuck were your parents doing to let you get away with that?”
They never gave me any instruction in this regard. A lot of things a young kid can get away with if he’s discrete…