Hermes has an interesting post on his intellectual journey into MRA, MGTOW, and game. AÂ snippet:
Now that I have become familiar with the seduction community and the writings of F. Roger Devlin, and been clued into the real dynamics behind sexual relationships, I see things in a different light. I don’t see these guys as heroes, nor innocent victims, but they are merely reacting to their environment. They see men in the news every day having their lives ruined and everything they have taken away in divorce court, all because their wives got “bored,” and they understandably want to avoid that. They weren’t objecting to marriage in theory, but to what it has become in practice in our society. Notably–something that would have escaped me a year ago, when I would have focused on their supposed caddishness and superiority to me in the dating market–they weren’t complaining about the idea of settling down with one woman for the rest of your life. None of them explicitly said that they wanted to sleep around, and in fact they seemed to think having a family was still an acceptable goal. Fifty years ago, in a society that still held traditional sexual morality up as a public ideal, these guys would probably have gotten married without giving it much thought.
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A very perceptive post by Hermes. I think it’s very true that the times have simply changed. Marriage is so not worth it to most men, and that is finally sinking in to the younger generations of men. I think the message will only grow in the years ahead unless something is done to change marriage (unlikely).
I think a lot of young guys who get married think if they act “in good faith” towards their spouses and her family that everything will turn out right. But if he even slips up once with this good faith, then the female makes accusations as to his lack of “emotional commitment” which, of course, is attention-seeking, obedience-demanding behavior on the part of the female. Once the female has in her mind that the male has “detached” emotionally, then whatever she wants, goes: shopping sprees, infidelity, or just flirting with the boss, further psychological manipulation, and slights, basically any kind of passive-aggression she can think of. At some point, this will culminate in a long, drawn-out divorce whereby the male is relieved of the assets he accumulated.